what bothers me the most, is the lack of connection, not being able to find common ground

conversations that seem like tennis games ending with the serve.

i guess tts the reason why i prefer to cut if all off, instead of leaving little bits and pieces of failed connections hanging.

But what happens when i don't want to? if i think its worth holding on to?

Is there anything i can do to make it better? will time help, or widen the gap?